Negotiating With Yourself

One of the really valuable things I've learned in recent years is to negotiate with others, in order to get what...

Addiction is Not a Disease: Taking a Look at Environmental & Social Factors

If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times: addiction is not a disease.  Aside from the growing body of scientific...

Some Interesting Facts You May Not Know About Addiction

The video below—entitled Everything We Think We Know About Addiction Is Wrong—isn't bad, but it only covers two facets of addiction—physical addiction...

Ignore Your ‘Magical Magnifying Mind’ & Carry On

I had an interesting life lesson recently, thought I'd share... For several days, I'd been stressed, frustrated, angry, depressed, etc. due to...

Mistaking Pleasure For Happiness

Another quick thought: One of the most important things I've learned to distinguish—and, unfortunately, only recently in my life—is the fine, nearly...

Are You a Time Thief?

I've written on this topic before, and my position hasn't changed: people who don't keep their time commitments, those who are perpetually...

How do I Forgive the Unforgivable?

There was a time in my life when I was dealing with lots of problems, a lot of baggage from my...

Know Thyself, & Know Thine Enemy – For They Are Often One & The...

I didn't want to go to the gym this morning. I really, really, didn't feel like going. And, I had so...

The Art of Letting Go

 "When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you." ~ Lolly Daskal There's a common saying:...

Why I Always Pick Up Pennies

"Find a penny, pick it up, and all the day you'll have good luck!" Yes, we've all heard, and chanted—and perhaps even...

Being Right vs. Being Helpful

Today, I've something stuck in my craw, and I need to vent (I know, shock!): I don't know if Dr. Wayne Dyer...

How the “Selfie Phenomenon” is Re-Defining Beauty

I really liked this video (below), and it makes a very salient point toward the end: that social media (Internet/digital technology)...

The Wall | A Poem

I wrote this poem as a young man, back in 1987: A Note From Rand: Please take a moment to subscribe to...

Resolving Conflict via Mindset Adjustment & Behavioral Adaptation

When circumstances change in our life (which is inevitable), and therefore conflict arises, we can deal with it in essentially one of...

Experiencing Happiness is More Important Than Winning

Winning Is Secondary Whenever I participate in games or sporting activities, I try to focus on the ultimate purpose of experiencing happiness and enjoying the...

I Am A Hypocrite

Yes, I am a hypocrite sometimes. And that's a kick in the groin for me, because I despise hypocrisy, as anyone...

The Benefits of “Chuckfests”

I no longer keep "stuff" around; if an item is no longer utilitarian to me, I chuck it, sell it, give it...

Reduce the Overwhelming to Micro-Steps & Get Started

Recently, I was reading a quick little article by Robert Locke, published over on Lifehack, entitled 10 Reasons Why Some People Are...

Are You an Optimist, or a Realist? The Pros & Cons of Optimism Bias

I find it fascinating: optimists are considered unrealistic, while realistic people are deemed pessimists. And everyone wants to be around optimists,...