Forgiving gets easier with practice.
For one, you come to the realization that you have no idea what others are going through. They could be going through hard times, a breakup or divorce, a job that’s not working out, financial hardship, illness in the family, you name it.
And if they’re going through really hard times themselves, they’re going to be focused on their own lives and problems, they’re going to be in defense mode, and thus more apt to treat you badly or hurt you, though most likely unintentionally.
And then there are those who never grow up, don’t pursue personal growth or increased knowledge or education, and therefore do stupid things, make bad choices, and have no clue what they’re doing to others in their life, how they’ve hurt you or anyone else through there own carelessness or incompetence. But again, it’s for the most part unintentional.
But then, there are some people who are just plain evil, and hurt you or others intentionally. But even so, you understand that forgiveness isn’t for them, it’s for you.
There’s an old saying: Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.
The fact of the matter is, if you can’t, or don’t, forgive them, then they will hurt you over and over again in your head, because you’ve never let go of it, never released it from your mind.
It’s like watching an instant replay of the hurtful incident over and over and over. Eventually, you’ve got to hit STOP, and EJECT, and be done with it.
That’s what forgiveness is.
And it gets easier with practice.