I recently came across an article on MSN which discussed “men’s pie clubs” which have arisen in England to help men cope with isolation and loneliness, via camaraderie with other men, and it brought to mind something I’ve been pondering lately…
In her book Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream – and Why It Matters, forensic psychologist Dr. Helen Smith worries that, with the disrespectful and denigrating way in which modern society treats men, simply for being men, when the time comes when society needs its men to step up and do the work that primarily only men can do—such as in the event of war, civil unrest, natural disaster, or some other major calamity—they’ll refuse.
And, she believes, rightly so.
She gives an example of a recent cruise ship that suffered a mishap and was sinking, and the men, rather than the traditional “women and children first”, fought and pushed their way to the lifeboats themselves, fuck everyone else. She believes that’s indicative of a frightening trend, resultant of a society and culture that continues to relegate men, simply for being men. She adds that even in their own homes, they’re often relegated to the “man cave” or basement, while the wife and kids have full run and control of the house.
This really struck me. And I have to wonder the same thing myself: With the abhorrent way men, and masculinity in general, are treated in society today—and as is typical today, all men being generalized as a group, rather than each evaluated individually, based on merit—when the time comes that society needs them to step up and be the men that they are…will they? Why should they?
From the (Amazon) book synopsis:
“American society has become anti-male. Men are sensing the backlash and are consciously and unconsciously going “on strike.” They are dropping out of college, leaving the workforce and avoiding marriage and fatherhood at alarming rates. The trend is so pronounced that a number of books have been written about this “man-child” phenomenon, concluding that men have taken a vacation from responsibility simply because they can. But why should men participate in a system that seems to be increasingly stacked against them?
As Men on Strike demonstrates, men aren’t dropping out because they are stuck in arrested development. They are instead acting rationally in response to the lack of incentives society offers them to be responsible fathers, husbands and providers. In addition, men are going on strike, either consciously or unconsciously, because they do not want to be injured by the myriad of laws, attitudes and hostility against them for the crime of happening to be male in the twenty-first century.”
There will come a time—perhaps sooner than later—when our society will desperately need the very men it has relegated to irrelevancy, or even disgust, denigration, or general misandry—and when that time comes, we can only hope that those ignored, chastised, denigrated men will heed the call, rise to the occasion, shoulder the burden, and get the work done that needs to be done.
Or will they shrug, and refuse?
After all, we’re already seeing this alienation of men manifesting in society, as men are now avoiding relationships with women, and refusing to have children, as seen in the MGTOW movement (Men Going Their Own Way).
The possibility that this frightening trend could spread beyond personal relationships and permeate—and therefore cripple—society as a whole is definitely worth thinking about. And perhaps the current regression of society toward misandry can be corrected, before it’s too late…